Your response to these questions might be, “No” but if I asked your calendar, your ministry team, your family or your spouse – what would they say?
We all are infected with a disease called “Superhero Syndrome.” I first heard this term in a book called Virtual Freedom by Chris Ducker.
According to Chris, “You and I may not know exactly when it happened, but you, too, were bitten. Chances are the bite wasn’t from a radioactive spider but it was just as potent – and just as transformative.”
For many of us, the bite came when we met Christ. Passion or a Holy Discontent rose up in us, and we felt responsible for saving the world. And we found out that we are actually gifted in these areas.
We can connect with our congregation but struggle to connect with our children. We work long hours and wonder if it’s supposed to be like this. I’m not a doctor but if you suffer these symptoms, you have Superhero Syndrome.
1.) You must be focused more on “being” than you are focused on “doing”.
Your life is not comprised of what you do but of who you are. Many times we do things because of our desire to earn the love or respect of someone; especially Jesus. We serve not because of what he’ll do in return but because what he’s already done! We need to focus on being with Jesus and being with our loved ones. Our doing should be an overflow of our being.
Nothing robs the sheep more than an angry, overwhelmed, exhausted pastor. You are good for nothing if you’re always tired. Learn to rest! Even God took some time off on the Sabbath. Besides that, you have a family that enjoys being with you.
3.) Learn to Delegate
Most people don’t delegate because they feel they don’t know what to delegate. Here are 3 questions to help you know what to delegate:
- What is it you don’t like doing? If you don’t enjoy doing something, find someone who does! Until you do, just stop doing it. I’ve learned that when you stop doing something, if it’s important someone will complain. If no one complains then it’s possible the task was not as important as you may have thought.
- What is it you can’t do? No matter how much I try, I cannot sing. There are some technical abilities I don’t have. It’s about embracing my weakness. My weakness gives room for others to be strong.
- What is it you shouldn’t do? I tell some members of my team that I pay them too much for them to spend their day making photocopies. Maybe it sounds a bit elitist but there are people who are passionate about things that are draining to you. Make your life easier and utilize them. There are tasks that are way below what you should be doing. Too many of us are busy doing the ministry verses leading the ministry. There are plenty of people who can handle that event registration but only you can handle the vision for that event. Do you see what I mean?
I’ll close with this; even the greatest superheroes were wise enough to acquire a sidekick or form a league for certain missions.
I’d love to be your sidekick, let me help you become a better leader. Use the form below to setup a free 30-minute coaching call.
It’s ok to be great but attempting to be “super” on your own may cost you your life.
I hope this helps you and those effected by the work you do.