Whenever my wife and I see our two year old son struggling we attempt to offer him some help.
He usually responds with his all-time favorite line, “No, I’m Good.”
I get it. He’s at a stage where his desire is to be independent.
The apple may not fall too far from the tree because many times I’m offered help and I respond in that same way, “No, I’m Good.”
But I’m not a two year old and neither are you. You and I can’t afford to refuse help.
But before I get into that, here are a few reasons I find myself rejecting help,
- I don’t want to trouble any body
- I don’t want to let people know that I have areas of weakness
- I don’t have the resources to repay the person
And the list of reasons can go on and on. But here’s what it boils down to: PRIDE.
My PRIDE is hurt when I have to admit that I don’t have all of the answers and that I have to go outside of myself to find the answer.
When you and I refuse help, we’re basically saying, “I refuse to grow if it means I have to admit that I don’t know everything.”
I’ve noticed that the most successful Pastors are usually those who are constantly looking to learn from others.
- They gain knowledge in amazing ways because of their desire to learn from others.
- Their ministries seam to experience accelerated growth.
- They seem to make all the right decisions, because there is Wisdom in the counsel of many.
People like that have no problem dealing with their pride. You see, when we allow our pride to get in the way of receiving help from others we risk missing out on learning things we don’t understand.
In fact, it’s a biblical principle. We learn in Luke chapter 14 that “he who humbles himself with be exalted.”
Yes, you read that right! The key to church growth is tied to a willingness to admit that we don’t know everything and that we are not God.
When we can admit that, we instantly become the student so the Holy Spirit can become our teacher, whether through direct revelation or through others.
If you want to see your church grow, then you must grow.
Try this out: stop telling others that you are good and be willing to humble yourself so that you might learn something new.